I was watching the latest season of the Real World and a relationship topic came up that sparked my interest.
How far into a relationship should you inform your partner about something from your past? More importantly, what if your past may have a negative effect on your relationship?
Real World Scenario:
kept didn’t get to tell his roommates and more specifically, Heather (his boo on the show), that he was involved in doing porn for a gay men’s website when he was younger. His roommates all felt “lied” to. Should Dustin have told Heather and his roommates from the jump?
How soon is too soon?
People come in and out of our lives and only so few stay so do we need to inform everyone we get involved with of our past? Do we wait until things get serious? Is that too late?
Ms. B. BAD Says…
I personally believe a persons past should stay where it belongs and that is in the past. New people who come into your life shouldn’t feel entitled to knowing everything about you right off the bat. Intimacy comes with trust and trust is developed over time.
So yes, you should inform your partner of your past if it may have an effect on their feelings towards you and your relationship together. However, it should be mentioned when you feel comfortable with the other person and feel certain they will be around for more than just a few rendezvous’.
Share with me your thoughts on this, I’d love to know what you think!
Photos via MTV.