The goal in a relationship is to be close and still maintain an identity as a separate person. Keeping your individuality allows you to be a happier more optimistic person who has a stronger sense of self. You are then much more capable of greater intimacy, love and passion in your relationship.
What do you do to keep your individuality when you are in a relationship?
As long as there is mutual respect in a relationship, friendship and above all, love, the relationship will stand up to anything. But that’s so hard to achieve nowadays becasue everyone is so selfish! Ah well…
People are only selfish when they want to be once you have found someone great it will be different! 🙂
Thank you for commenting and sharing Amy!
Very sound advice! I am currently in a relationship with my first boyfriend ever, even though I am 26 🙂 We have been together for almost 2 years now (side note, the BEST thing a strong woman can do for herself is be picky as hell and wait for the right man to come along…never settle for someone who is less than you want/deserve! I waited 26 years to date someone and although it was hard at times it was literaly the best decision I ever made!). It was very hard for me to adjust to life with a mate while still maintaining my individuality and sense of self. One thing that helps me a lot is this: I have Mondays off work and my boyfriend does not. It does wonders for your spirit to have a whole day to yourself while your significant other is at work so you have no distractions. It helps me so much to work on “me” and do things that I need to do to maintain a healthy mental state so I can be a better me and also be a better girlfriend/daughter/employee/ect 🙂
THIS is SO true! I love my days to myself! They really are sooooo important esp at our age!
And good for you for waiting for the right one! That is awesome!!
Thank you so much for sharing Dori-Kay! 🙂
This is so true, I am a firm believer in being true to who you are. I see so many woman change themselves to make their relationships easier to deal with but the truth is when you conform you will eventually begin to build up animosity towards yourself and your partner. You partner falls in love with who you are initially so why does that have to change….
Amen! You said it perfectly. People def build up animosity and that leads to fallung outs. Great points Eve!
I confess that I have left my life away because mens, and I had to learn and mature a lot to manage to get my individuality. Today I try to do what I like and have hobbies, addition to my work, to focus on myself. I try to make time with my boyfriend to be special and unforgettable, without never forget who we are.
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It happens to the best of us Vv! But its important that we learn from it and its great that you have and are doing things for yoyrself!
Thank you for sharing! 🙂