All posts tagged: arguments

So When Were You Going to Tell Me?

I was watching the latest season of the Real World and a relationship topic came up that sparked my interest. How far into a relationship should you inform your partner about something from your past? More importantly, what if your past may have a negative effect on your relationship? Real World Scenario: Dustin kept didn’t get to tell his roommates and more specifically, Heather (his boo on the show), that he was involved in doing porn for a gay men’s website when he was younger.  His roommates all felt “lied” to. Should Dustin have told Heather and his roommates from the jump? How soon is too soon? People come in and out of our lives and only so few stay so do we need to inform everyone we get involved with of our past? Do we wait until things get serious? Is that too late? Ms. B. BAD Says…  I personally believe a persons past should stay where it belongs and that is in the past. New people who come into your life shouldn’t feel entitled to knowing everything about …

Improve your relationship by learning instead of controlling.

Let it be (D)etermined to Last: When conflict occurs you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open up to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win. We are all guilty of trying to control others into behaving the way we want. However, when we do this we wind up creating even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship. While you are in a relationship there are two major fears that become relevant: the fear of losing the other person and the fear of losing ones self. It is because of these fears that most people immediately protect themselves with controlling behavior.  But if you choose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fears will eventually be put to rest. So the next time you find yourself in an argument make it a point to try to understand what the other person …

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

Let It be (B)eautiful: There’s nothing sexier than a man enjoying a meal you have just prepared for him. The satisfaction of knowing you have completely pleased him is worth the amount of time you spent slaving over that stove. Surprise your man with a romantic home cooked meal, maybe even a sexy outfit you know he would like, and he will be kissing your feet. 😉 Let it be (A)uthentic: I see so many women completely lose themselves in relationships. I in fact have been a victim to that myself. I thought he knew what was best for me. I thought I had to love him more than myself and that all of my time should be devoted to his needs. However over time, I grew strength as a woman and realized that real love, does not mean you have to forget who you are, or put aside your values, needs and wants so the other person can be happy. Real love is being able to SHARE all those things with your partner without …

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~e.e. cummings

Be (B)eautiful: Health is beautiful. There’s nothing beautiful about destroying your body, even if you do it slowly by neglecting your body. Be (A)uthentic: One of my favorite sites to go to for unique jewelry pieces is http://www.pnkelephant.com! I can’t stop obsessing over these little gems! I love how I can wear them with a casual day look and a more trendy night outfit. How cute are they BG’s?? Be (D)etermined: If there is one thing I can’t stand about people and grammar  it’s when they say: “I could care less“. This statement is incorrect and it means that there actually is some interest!!  The correct statement is “I COULDN’T care less“, which means you pretty much don’t give a damn at all. So next time you’re in an argument I hope the correct statement comes out of your mouth please. 😉

Love is like war, Easy to begin but hard to end. ~ Anonymous

Let it be (B)eautiful: When you are having a rough day or a moment of stress or pain your partner should be the one to relax you and remind you of all that you have going for yourself. Let it be (A)uthentic: You gotta have passion. If you aren’t passionate and willing to fight for your relationship than why are you even in it? Let it be (D)etermined to Last: I like today’s quote, but I don’t think it should be taken at face value. There are many times where people remain in unhealthy relationships b/c of “love”.  When love hurts, all the time, or at least more than half of the time, guess what? It isn’t love. Get the hell out. BAD girls do not tolerate being put down, taken advantage of or disrespected. Realize that you are special, you’re a BAD b$tch and no man will ever play you out!

“Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they bring you down and sometimes, like now, they get you so high.” ~SATC

Let it be (B)eautiful: Guys like to front like they are macho and tough, but for most of them when it come to being with their girl they love to be babied. So treating him like a toddler every now and then will have him swooning. 😉 Let is be (A)uthentic:  You should always make sure that YOU are being treated how you want and that you are happy. Relationships are hard work and not always a walk in the park. So its understandable that you guys experience a few lows. However, these lows should not outweigh or even come close to the amount of highs you experience. When you are truly happy life should  feel like you’re on Ecstasy practically every day… Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Don’t expect your man to be responsible for every anniversary and special occasion. Yes, we BAD girls love to be spoiled, but so does your guy.  Taking him out to do something he will genuinely enjoy or that he would maybe do with his boys instead …

“In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope. In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort. In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And in a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe.”~Michael Jackson

Be (B)eautiful: Help someone reach their goals. Be a cheerleader and support the people you care about as they strive towards achievement. Be (A)uthentic: It is easy for us to take out our anger on those closest to us (family, significant others, friends), but hold back on a stranger or someone we are not as close to. This should not be the case. If a coworker pissed you off don’t take it out on your guy when you get home. Talk to your coworker and resolve the issue- don’t bring your attitude home to people who love you. Be (D)etermined: You should always believe in yourself even when others may not. Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something or that you aren’t good enough.If you can see yourself achieving it-then take the steps necessary and make it happen. The only person stopping you from achieving your goals is you.

“There is always 3 sides to every story. Your side, their side and the TRUTH.”

Be (B)eautiful:  As a BAD girl your future is so bright you need shades on at all times :). The Summer is fast approaching so get your hands on a hott new pair! I am currently obsessed with the brand Carrera. Lady Gaga sported a pair of Carrera Champion shades in the ‘Bad Romance‘ video.   Be (A)uthentic: Arguments amongst friends can lead to a real sticky (unwanted) situation. If the argument doesn’t involve you at all, then it is in your best interest to remain NEUTRAL. This means not taking sides- understand where each person is coming from, but try not to side with one person over the other. Like today’s quotes says, there is always 3 sides to a story and it’s not your job to play detective to figure out the truth. Your job is to be a friend to BOTH. Refrain from being involved in what I call frashing (friend bashing).  That is a BAD girl no-no! If you feel the need to do something, plan a get-together where they can …

“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”

Be (B)eautiful: Sending a text to let your friend know you are thinking about them can make a world of a difference. We all have busy lives and can sometimes neglect some of the people we care most about. It only takes a few seconds to send a quick text: ” I miss you and hope your weekend is a good one!” People genuinely appreciate the small things. Be (A)uthentic: Its never a good idea to talk shit about a friend behind their back. Because I know if you will talk about someone behind their back to me, why wouldn’t you talk bad about me behind my back as well? Most people dont trust a shit talker. So keep your comments to yourself. There are different ways that you can express your feelings about someone without sounding like you are talking bad about them. Be (D)etermined: Making up with someone can be difficult. Your pride can get the best of you. But as a BAD girl, you are always the bigger person. Therefore, show your friend/spouse/significant other/sibling …