All posts tagged: Real Love

Improve your relationship by learning instead of controlling.

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Let it be (D)etermined to Last: When conflict occurs you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open up to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win. We are all guilty of trying to control others into behaving the way we want. However, when we do this we wind up creating even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship. While you are in a relationship there are two major fears that become relevant: the fear of losing the other person and the fear of losing ones self. It is because of these fears that most people immediately protect themselves with controlling behavior.  But if you choose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fears will eventually be put to rest. So the next time you find yourself in an argument make it a point to try to understand what the other person …

Celebrating the Holidays With the One You Love.

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Let it Be (B)eautiful: Christmas isn’t all about gift giving, although retail giants will tell you otherwise. If you can go out there and VOLUNTEER or DONATE please do so… as a couple (or with friends)! It will  bring you that much closer as you share in such a rewarding experience. Let it Be (A)uthentic: Get creative with your gift giving! I love surprising my loved ones. One year I hid concert tickets in a DVD box for my brother. Last year I managed to get my hands on my boyfriends phone in order to switch it with the brand new one I bought him. He had no idea until I handed it over to him because it was ringing. He was confused for a slight second, but then became super happy. 🙂 Let it Be (D)etermined to Last: The holidays can be stressful with all the spending, gift buying, family visits, annoying relatives and the like. However, make a conscious effort to avoid taking it out on your partner. It is not their fault your brother sent you …

“You can have my heart or we can share it like the last slice.” ~Drake

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Let it be (B)eautiful: Your true home is with the person that you love. You should feel most comfortable and at ease with that person by your side no matter where you both may be physically at the moment. Let it be (A)uthentic: Long distance relationships can be tough, I know this from experience. But if you love someone more than anything, then distance only matters to the mind, not to the heart. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: If you are a foodie like me then I bet you enjoy your meal right down to the last morsel.  However, when you love someone you should be willing to share your last bite so they can enjoy too. This can also be applied to other things like sharing personal space, time, the TV, ideas, pillows, etc. Sharing is sexy. 😉

Your relationship should be a judgment free zone, full of respect, hot cocoa & cuddling!

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Let it be (B)eautiful: The cold weather is here, which means everyone wants a cuddle buddy. If you are fortunate enough to have one than you best make sure you take full advantage. Hot cocoa, a good flick , and a warm blanket sounds divine. Let it be (A)uthentic: I love how if I am having a rough/emotional/stressful day I can go to my guy fall into his arms and let out a good cry. Your relationship should be a judgment free zone. No make up on, bad hair day, PMS and all, you should feel comfortable being you. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Respect. This one word says it all. If you don’t respect your partners feelings expect your relationship to have a first class seat on a train to nowhere. If your partner feels differently than you do, instead of flipping out, take a second to understand their side. This is where communication comes in. Take a few minutes where you both explain your point of view, put your pride on a …

“We were given: Two hands to hold. Two legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.” ~Unknown

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Let it be (B)eautiful: With the Holiday season rapidly approaching I am a big fan of doing activities that remind you of childhood. Things like apple picking, pumpkin decorating, baking cookies, card making,etc. It may sound cheesy, but I bet it will be fun to introduce your inner child to your partners if they haven’t already met! Let it be (A)uthentic: It can be difficult when you are dating and it just isn’t working. It may even hurt, but what you need to realize is that it happened for a reason. I have had my fair share of heartbreak and thinking, but why can’t I find love? The answer? That person is not meant for you. I really do believe we all have that one person out there, so don’t settle b/c you feel rushed. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more deeply because you now experience ownership of that relationship. That person is now YOUR significant other and …

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

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Let It be (B)eautiful: There’s nothing sexier than a man enjoying a meal you have just prepared for him. The satisfaction of knowing you have completely pleased him is worth the amount of time you spent slaving over that stove. Surprise your man with a romantic home cooked meal, maybe even a sexy outfit you know he would like, and he will be kissing your feet. 😉 Let it be (A)uthentic: I see so many women completely lose themselves in relationships. I in fact have been a victim to that myself. I thought he knew what was best for me. I thought I had to love him more than myself and that all of my time should be devoted to his needs. However over time, I grew strength as a woman and realized that real love, does not mean you have to forget who you are, or put aside your values, needs and wants so the other person can be happy. Real love is being able to SHARE all those things with your partner without …

“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” ~ Antoine de Saint

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Let it be (B)eautiful: When you visit your partners family for the first time always try to bring something, even if its small. If your partner is of a different ethnic background  it would be nice to bring a treat or dish that is typical from where your family is from. You want to bring a piece of you into their home. Let it be (A)uthentic: Your mistakes from past relationships should never be repeated. They happened during the practice round. Now that you are in the real thing you want to make sure you play the game right. So take those lessons you learned and apply them to your current situation. Remember how you and your ex partner felt and work to avoid those feelings again now. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: You and your partner should be on the same page when it comes to plans of living together, marriage, kids, a dog, buying a house, whatever.  If your partner is dead set on NOT having a child and you want nothing …

Love is like war, Easy to begin but hard to end. ~ Anonymous

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Let it be (B)eautiful: When you are having a rough day or a moment of stress or pain your partner should be the one to relax you and remind you of all that you have going for yourself. Let it be (A)uthentic: You gotta have passion. If you aren’t passionate and willing to fight for your relationship than why are you even in it? Let it be (D)etermined to Last: I like today’s quote, but I don’t think it should be taken at face value. There are many times where people remain in unhealthy relationships b/c of “love”.  When love hurts, all the time, or at least more than half of the time, guess what? It isn’t love. Get the hell out. BAD girls do not tolerate being put down, taken advantage of or disrespected. Realize that you are special, you’re a BAD b$tch and no man will ever play you out!

“True love never lives happily ever after – true love has no ending.” ~ K. Knight

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Let it Be (B)eautiful: How cute is it when just hearing your partners name can bring a smile to your face.  L O V E. Let it Be (A)uthentic: If a guy is trying really hard to impress you it is because he is already impressed by YOU. He is aiming to put his best foot forward in order to get you to find him attractive, funny, and likable.  So, this pretty much means the ball is in your court. Relax and enjoy the show. 😉 Let it Be (D)etermined to Last: True love always lives on even after the couple has passed. Their love will live on in the hearts of those they have touched. Their love can be found in their children, grandchildren, family, friends, and even strangers. As a couple in love, REAL love, you never know whose life  you may be touching. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to see that real love does exist to give them that much-needed hope. ❤