All posts tagged: Real Love

“You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry.” ~Author Unknown

Let it be (B)eautiful: “Not Gon Cry” by Mary J. Blige coincidentally is playing as I type up this post. This is a great song to listen to when you the need the strength to move forward. Music seriously helps heal wounds. Let it be (A)uthentic: I don’t think tears are a sign of vulnerability or weakness. When someone sheds a few tears it could be for so many other reasons like feeling  joy, happiness, sentiment, inspiration, overwhelmed, or if something simply touches their heart.  When you find out what can cause someone to feel the need to cry it opens you up into their soul. It allows you to see the type of person they are and what really means a lot to them. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Men have been raised to think crying is strictly for women (total bull sh!t). If your man is in need of a good cry don’t make it uncomfortable for him. The last thing he needs is his girl friend talking sh!t about it. There …

“Sometimes I wish that I was the weather, you’d bring me up in conversation forever. And when it rained, I’d be the talk of the day.” ~John Mayer

Let it be (B)eautiful: I find it really adorable when a person includes their significant other in conversation even when they are not around. Instead of saying “On rainy days I usually like to stay home and watch re-runs of ‘The King of Queens’ – they would say ‘On rainy days Joe and I like to stay home and watch re-runs’..” It shows a true partnership and pride in your relationship. Let it be (A)uthentic: It is important that we learn to understand where others are coming from and why they feel the way they do as long as they have a valid argument to back it up. BAD girls don’t support an argument made just for argument’s sake. If someone is trying to combat you just so they can TRY and prove you wrong then you need to let them know it’s not happening. If you genuinely can’t see where someone is coming from because they have no substantial claim or evidence then its up to you to stand your ground. Tell them their …

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” ~Hellen Keller

Let it be (B)eautiful:Madden NFL 11 just came out. Pick up a copy for your sweetie if football is his thang. Let it be (A)uthentic: Real love is not a diamond ring, a new Benz, or a mansion. Real love is a collision of 2 souls becoming one. It is a FEELING that is shared and cherished more than any possession in the world. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Keep it 50/50! One person shouldn’t be doing all the work and putting in all the effort. It’s an equal partnership gals. Let it be known from the jump what you expect from your partner. If he starts slackin’ then you need to light the fire under his a$$ and remind him of his role.

“Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they bring you down and sometimes, like now, they get you so high.” ~SATC

Let it be (B)eautiful: Guys like to front like they are macho and tough, but for most of them when it come to being with their girl they love to be babied. So treating him like a toddler every now and then will have him swooning. 😉 Let is be (A)uthentic:  You should always make sure that YOU are being treated how you want and that you are happy. Relationships are hard work and not always a walk in the park. So its understandable that you guys experience a few lows. However, these lows should not outweigh or even come close to the amount of highs you experience. When you are truly happy life should  feel like you’re on Ecstasy practically every day… Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Don’t expect your man to be responsible for every anniversary and special occasion. Yes, we BAD girls love to be spoiled, but so does your guy.  Taking him out to do something he will genuinely enjoy or that he would maybe do with his boys instead …

“Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with.” ~Unknown

Let it be (B)eautiful: There is nothing better than feeling protected when you are with your guy. You should feel safe and know that if anything were to happen he would be there for you. On the flip side your man likes to know that he makes you feel protected. So let him know that! Let it be (A)uthentic: If a man tells you he doesn’t feel a certain way for you then believe him. There are guys you can have fun with and guys to be in love with and every guy you meet isn’t going to be THAT guy. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Forcing a relationship to work is wasted energy. I think too many people are actually forcing marriages and that explains why our divorce rate is so high. If you don’t feel it 100% then it’s just not right.  I know its hard not to get nervous as you get older and more people around you are getting engaged, married, having babies, etc. If this doesn’t seem to be …

“I knew I loved you before I met you…” ~ Savage Garden

Let it be (B)eautiful: My boyfriend knows how to make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world without any words ever being spoken. Let it be (A)uthentic: We dated back in high school and I wrote down the date and time he asked me to be his. The time was 10:20 pm. We got back together again in college and guess what time it was when he decided to ask the question? It was 10:20 am. No bull shit. Just fate. I am publishing this post at 10:20 am today. 🙂 Let it be (D)etermined to Last: We keep eachother entertained. We communicate and LISTEN to each other and we are considerate of one another. I keep him informed of my plans and always in the loop of what is going on with me so he feels involved and his opinion appreciated. But most important, we are in Love. Happy Anniversary My Love! xOXo, Your B.A.D Girl

“You’re worth much more than an occassional ‘I love You’. I’m thinking of you.” ~ Trey Songz

Be (B)eautiful: This dress is so romantic. Perfect for a date with your guy or a ladies night with your main chick! Be (A)uthentic: Know your self-worth and VALUE IT. Guard what you value in a relationship as if it is an expensive rare diamond you refuse to ever lose.  So many women know what they want, but wind up lowering their standards to please a man or to simply just be “in a relationship” with someone, anyone. Don’t get desperate. I bet if you hold out for THAT guy he will make it worth the wait. Be (D)etermined: Being in an unhealthy relationship is obviously never good for either party involved. However, I am concerned about YOU, BAD girl. If you don’t feel valued or appreciated by your partner than what are you holding on for? If you feel like you are constantly giving only to be given nothing in return then it may be time to evaluate your situation and most likely get out of it! B.A.D girl song for empowerment to get …

“When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.” ~John Gray

Let it be (B)eautiful: Random kisses make my heart melt. There is nothing cuter then a soft kiss on the forehead, neck or… 😉 Let it be (A)uthentic: Communication is key in any relationship. However, when finding the right partner to share the rest of your life with it is beyond important that you are able to have a conversation with this person. Too many times do I see couples who can barely say more than a few words to one another. You and your partner should be able to talk about any and everything with ease. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: If you are in a serious relationship then I HIGHLY recommend you must read this book. It is so insightful to another level. Actually, EVERYONE should read this book.  It is a relationship bible. “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray Ph.D. You probably have heard of it before I am sure. B.A.D Girl Song for your iPod: “Mars vs. Venus” – Usher

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” ~Noah – The Notebook

Let it Be (B)eautiful: I hope you all got to watch fireworks on the 4th with that special someone who makes you see fireworks. Let it Be (A)uthentic: “Say what you mean and mean what you say.” A real bitch will live by this statement and she will respect anyone who can dish it right back. In a relationship everything that comes out of your mouth should be something you believe in and something that you sincerely mean. Don say things just to say them if its not how you feel. Also you should always be able to express how you feel openly and honestly with your partner. Don’t hold back. Let it Be (D)etermined to Last: Make sure you compliment your partner at least once a day. If you don’t someone else will and the last thing you need is your significant other to realize that you DON’T ever give them compliments and  make them feel pretty/handsome etc. No matter how good looking someone may be it is ALWAYS nice to hear it from …

“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” ~ Judy Garland

Let it be (B)eautiful: Take your guy to see a movie, preferably a guy flick like “The A-Team.”  Try to actually get into it- action movies aren’t as bad as you may think. More importantly he will appreciate it. Let it be (A)uthentic: Real love is more than just physical. There is an emotional as well as a mental connection. The two of you should feel connected and your relationship shouldn’t be based solely on great sexual chemistry. That chemistry will fizzle out if there is nothing deeper supporting it. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Every person I have ever met with a long-lasting relationship has said the same thing to me “I just knew.” When you find that right person you will feel it so strong that any doubts will be non-existent. It’s a feeling that can’t be put into words, but only summed up as “I just know.”  If you don’t know then it may be a no-go.