All posts tagged: relationship advice

Why It’s Okay to Be Single During The Holidays

The cold weather is approaching and holiday season is in full effect and many people refer to this time of year as “cuffing season”. Its the time when everyone wants a boo to cuddle up with on the cold winter nights. Now don’t get me wrong, I have no complaints about being with my boyfriend, but this post is for all my single girl readers! 5 Reasons to Enjoy Being Single for the Holidays: 1. Your bank account is BIGGER When you’re single  you don’t have to worry about picking out the perfect relationship-stage appropriate gift for your s/o, which means extra cash in your pocket! Cha-Chiiing! 2. Do what YOU want to do You don’t have to argue over where to spend the holidays. Pick and choose who you decide to spend QT with! 3. Holiday Party Hop! The holidays are an excuse to party and as a single gal you are free to attend as many as you like. Get your flirt on! 4. Less stress while trying to Impress The holidays can be a …

So When Were You Going to Tell Me?

I was watching the latest season of the Real World and a relationship topic came up that sparked my interest. How far into a relationship should you inform your partner about something from your past? More importantly, what if your past may have a negative effect on your relationship? Real World Scenario: Dustin kept didn’t get to tell his roommates and more specifically, Heather (his boo on the show), that he was involved in doing porn for a gay men’s website when he was younger.  His roommates all felt “lied” to. Should Dustin have told Heather and his roommates from the jump? How soon is too soon? People come in and out of our lives and only so few stay so do we need to inform everyone we get involved with of our past? Do we wait until things get serious? Is that too late? Ms. B. BAD Says…  I personally believe a persons past should stay where it belongs and that is in the past. New people who come into your life shouldn’t feel entitled to knowing everything about …

3 Things I Didn’t Understand About Guys When I Was 16 yrs old

1. Men rely heavily on the out of sight, out of mind theory. They are visual people so they try their hardest to remove any and every thought of you when things go sour, but it doesn’t always mean they don’t care. 2. During an argument a guy needs time in his “man cave” to reflect on what was said before he can respond back. So if he is not saying  anything to you after you just finished chewing his head off, relax, it is normal. Annoying as all hell, yes, but it’s how they operate, or something… 3. He is a  “Mr Fix It” by nature so while you are venting about your day he is trying to find ways to solve your problems. This is how he thinks he is helping and more importantly making you feel better. Most of the time all we want is a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear.  Men don’t know this so we have to put them on. To be continued & continued & continued… …

A B.A.D Girl in Love is Never Scared to Get Sexy!

Be (B)eautiful: Get sexy this Valentine’s Day with some lingerie pieces from Fredericks of  Hollywood! Be (A)uthentic: If there is one thing a B.A.D girl doesn’t do its FAKE an orgasm!  He will think everything was satisfactory and won’t learn what it takes to actually get you off.  Just give him a passionate kiss afterward to show that you still enjoyed it and work towards the goal during the next round. Be (D)etermined: Get your night started while sippin’ on a glass of Love Potion 214. This afrodisatic drink is guaranteed to get you and your partner in the mood for some good lovin.’ I am giving away a bottle to 2 lucky readers! If you haven’t done so already ENTER HERE. Deadline is this Friday!!

True Love Tuesday: Recipe for a Perfect Anniversary.

Ingredients: 1 Happy Couple 2 cups of ripe respect 2 cups of pure honesty 2 cups of good conversation 2 hot ensembles 1 pair of sexy stilettos 8 tablespoons of sugar 2 parts fresh peeled thoughtfulness 1 bag of super sweet creativity Fresh picked laughter and Fun 2 hearts together as one 1 romantic setting ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ Directions: 1. Take 1 happy couple and put them in sexy outfits (depending on location- clothing is optional) 2. Place happy couple in a romantic setting 3. Stir in 2 cups each of respect, honesty & love and blend until smooth 4. Chop in 2 parts thoughtfulness 5. Add in a splash of creativity 6. Stir in doses of fun and laughter 7. Top it off with a sugary kiss or 2…or 3 Bon Anniversaire! xo

Improve your relationship by learning instead of controlling.

Let it be (D)etermined to Last: When conflict occurs you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open up to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win. We are all guilty of trying to control others into behaving the way we want. However, when we do this we wind up creating even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship. While you are in a relationship there are two major fears that become relevant: the fear of losing the other person and the fear of losing ones self. It is because of these fears that most people immediately protect themselves with controlling behavior.  But if you choose to learn about your fears instead of attempt to control your partner, your fears will eventually be put to rest. So the next time you find yourself in an argument make it a point to try to understand what the other person …

Celebrating the Holidays With the One You Love.

Let it Be (B)eautiful: Christmas isn’t all about gift giving, although retail giants will tell you otherwise. If you can go out there and VOLUNTEER or DONATE please do so… as a couple (or with friends)! It will  bring you that much closer as you share in such a rewarding experience. Let it Be (A)uthentic: Get creative with your gift giving! I love surprising my loved ones. One year I hid concert tickets in a DVD box for my brother. Last year I managed to get my hands on my boyfriends phone in order to switch it with the brand new one I bought him. He had no idea until I handed it over to him because it was ringing. He was confused for a slight second, but then became super happy. 🙂 Let it Be (D)etermined to Last: The holidays can be stressful with all the spending, gift buying, family visits, annoying relatives and the like. However, make a conscious effort to avoid taking it out on your partner. It is not their fault your brother sent you …

Relationship Advice: Respect yourself and your body. Sex doesn’t mean love.

Let it be (B)eautiful: A woman who respects herself and her body is way sexy. Let it be (A)uthentic: You deserve to be happy with someone all the time not just when your naked. Be real with yourself, are you happy with your current situation being based on pure physicality or do you want something more? Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Sleeping with someone will not, I repeat NOT make them want to take you seriously or pursue a committed relationship. So please don’t ever think this will be the case even if he says so. Getting it on should not be a prerequisite for relationship 101. So don’t be pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, especially for a guy! “If you want to be respected by others the great thing is to respect yourself. Only by that, only by self-respect will you compel others to respect you.” So B.A.D Girls  in your experience has hooking up ever led to a serious relationship?

“You can have my heart or we can share it like the last slice.” ~Drake

Let it be (B)eautiful: Your true home is with the person that you love. You should feel most comfortable and at ease with that person by your side no matter where you both may be physically at the moment. Let it be (A)uthentic: Long distance relationships can be tough, I know this from experience. But if you love someone more than anything, then distance only matters to the mind, not to the heart. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: If you are a foodie like me then I bet you enjoy your meal right down to the last morsel.  However, when you love someone you should be willing to share your last bite so they can enjoy too. This can also be applied to other things like sharing personal space, time, the TV, ideas, pillows, etc. Sharing is sexy. 😉