All posts tagged: relationship advice

Your relationship should be a judgment free zone, full of respect, hot cocoa & cuddling!

Let it be (B)eautiful: The cold weather is here, which means everyone wants a cuddle buddy. If you are fortunate enough to have one than you best make sure you take full advantage. Hot cocoa, a good flick , and a warm blanket sounds divine. Let it be (A)uthentic: I love how if I am having a rough/emotional/stressful day I can go to my guy fall into his arms and let out a good cry. Your relationship should be a judgment free zone. No make up on, bad hair day, PMS and all, you should feel comfortable being you. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: Respect. This one word says it all. If you don’t respect your partners feelings expect your relationship to have a first class seat on a train to nowhere. If your partner feels differently than you do, instead of flipping out, take a second to understand their side. This is where communication comes in. Take a few minutes where you both explain your point of view, put your pride on a …

“We were given: Two hands to hold. Two legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.” ~Unknown

Let it be (B)eautiful: With the Holiday season rapidly approaching I am a big fan of doing activities that remind you of childhood. Things like apple picking, pumpkin decorating, baking cookies, card making,etc. It may sound cheesy, but I bet it will be fun to introduce your inner child to your partners if they haven’t already met! Let it be (A)uthentic: It can be difficult when you are dating and it just isn’t working. It may even hurt, but what you need to realize is that it happened for a reason. I have had my fair share of heartbreak and thinking, but why can’t I find love? The answer? That person is not meant for you. I really do believe we all have that one person out there, so don’t settle b/c you feel rushed. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more deeply because you now experience ownership of that relationship. That person is now YOUR significant other and …

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

Let It be (B)eautiful: There’s nothing sexier than a man enjoying a meal you have just prepared for him. The satisfaction of knowing you have completely pleased him is worth the amount of time you spent slaving over that stove. Surprise your man with a romantic home cooked meal, maybe even a sexy outfit you know he would like, and he will be kissing your feet. 😉 Let it be (A)uthentic: I see so many women completely lose themselves in relationships. I in fact have been a victim to that myself. I thought he knew what was best for me. I thought I had to love him more than myself and that all of my time should be devoted to his needs. However over time, I grew strength as a woman and realized that real love, does not mean you have to forget who you are, or put aside your values, needs and wants so the other person can be happy. Real love is being able to SHARE all those things with your partner without …

*Special Feature*: Style Me BAD Presents its Couple of the Month! ♥

Meet Our Hot Couple : Jiselle & Eugene! {Jiselle is a 23-year-old from Long Island, NY. She is currently a student at John Jay College in NYC studying forensic Psychology and also working  full-time as an Executive Assistant for a Real Estate Firm. Eugene is 25 from Queens, NY. He currently works as an Investigative Technician for Target Corp. Jiselle is a Capricorn and Eugene is an Aries for all you astrology lovers! They have been together officially since June 11, 2007. Jiselle is a good friend of mine and when I asked her how it felt to be chosen as our “It Couple” she replied, “It feels great! There are so many people who have given up on love and I think featuring a “Couple of the Month” is a great reminder that it still exists and is within everyone’s reach!”} SMB: So tells us how you guys met? Jiselle: “I was a freshman at St. Johns University and he was a junior and also one of the orientation leaders. He was way hot, …

“How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something, but to be someone.” ~Gabrielle “Coco” Chanel

Be (B)eautiful: Thank everyone who supports you throughout the day. The list of those who you come in contact with is endless. Be (A)uthentic: Here is some food for thought: Would you want to be friends with you? Think about your friendships and how you treat people. Would you consider yourself are a great friend? Be (D)etermined: Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend. I know us females want to be nosy and find out what the ex g/f was like b/c we want to know what attracts him and of course what she did wrong! But refrain from speaking about the ex at all costs and if he asks you questions about him keep it simple. Don’t go gushing your heart out as if he was one of your girls and not your love interest. Give him the facts of the relationship without the accusations and bull shit.  For example: We just weren’t compatible or he wasn’t ready to settle down.  And most important, always make yourself look like the innocent party. …

“Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” ~ Antoine de Saint

Let it be (B)eautiful: When you visit your partners family for the first time always try to bring something, even if its small. If your partner is of a different ethnic background  it would be nice to bring a treat or dish that is typical from where your family is from. You want to bring a piece of you into their home. Let it be (A)uthentic: Your mistakes from past relationships should never be repeated. They happened during the practice round. Now that you are in the real thing you want to make sure you play the game right. So take those lessons you learned and apply them to your current situation. Remember how you and your ex partner felt and work to avoid those feelings again now. Let it be (D)etermined to Last: You and your partner should be on the same page when it comes to plans of living together, marriage, kids, a dog, buying a house, whatever.  If your partner is dead set on NOT having a child and you want nothing …

“You get better sex when you know your own body. How can you expect a man to know your body when you don’t know what pleases you?” ~Eva Longoria

Be (B)eautiful: Looking sleazy is not sexy. Here is a good rule of thumb to follow when dressing up to keep it classy yet still look sexy.  If you are showing legs/booty keep the girls up top (boobies) in hiding. If you want to let the girls come out and play a little bit than throw on some jeans or a longer bottom. Be (A)uthentic: There are plenty of women who, in the interest of being nice, have ended up sleeping with people with whom they later realized we wouldn’t even have a cup of coffee with. If this is you there is no need to beat yourself up over it, but it is definitely not okay to continue this now that you are a BAD girl! Get in touch with yourself and choose carefully the people with whom we share our bodies. Be (D)etermined: A good girl has sex because she is doing it to make her partner happy. A BAD girl has sex to make HERSELF as well as her partner happy.  This …

Love is like war, Easy to begin but hard to end. ~ Anonymous

Let it be (B)eautiful: When you are having a rough day or a moment of stress or pain your partner should be the one to relax you and remind you of all that you have going for yourself. Let it be (A)uthentic: You gotta have passion. If you aren’t passionate and willing to fight for your relationship than why are you even in it? Let it be (D)etermined to Last: I like today’s quote, but I don’t think it should be taken at face value. There are many times where people remain in unhealthy relationships b/c of “love”.  When love hurts, all the time, or at least more than half of the time, guess what? It isn’t love. Get the hell out. BAD girls do not tolerate being put down, taken advantage of or disrespected. Realize that you are special, you’re a BAD b$tch and no man will ever play you out!

“In this day and age, some turn 18 and think they’re a man or a woman and that’s it, but that’s just not true. You have to establish your manhood or your womanhood with actions.” ~Orlando McGuire

Be (B)eautiful: Something so simple as wishing a cashier a nice day or greeting them with a smile makes a big difference. Be (A)uthentic: The same way that you are quick to own up to your accomplishments you should also own up to your mistakes. A real BAD girl isn’t embarrassed or afraid to admit her wrongs because she knows they all add up the woman that she is. Be (D)etermined: Age is seriously nothing but a number! You can be 30 and still acting like a 16-year-old. It is entirely up to you when you decide to become an “adult”. For some it happens sooner than others, but it is ultimately your actions and how you handle yourself in situations that really defines you, not that stupid little number.

“Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not.”~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Be (B)eautiful: If you don’t carry an inner beauty within you, it doesn’t matter how many beautiful people, sites and objects you surround yourself with. Love who you were, are and will become. Be (A)uthentic: I like to believe in people every now and then, so I don’t have a problem with giving second chances to those I feel DESERVE IT. Like the saying goes, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, I’m kicking your a$$!” 😉 Be (D)etermined: The year is almost coming to a close. How many of your goals for the year have you accomplished? There is still time left so make it happen!